First blog.. Trust issues are a thing.

Sooo.. I am starting my blog by posting a blog about the one thing that MOST people can agree with or relate to and that is.. (Drum roll please) TRUST ISSUES.  Whether it has to do with relationships, friendships, or whatever else it may apply to, we all have some trust issues. I have never met a person who is so optimistic and happy-go-lucky, that they don't have some sort of trust issue, if I do, I will be very shocked, but good for them. I mean it's just a life skill/survival tactic we have. The Oxford dictionary definition of trust is: A firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. When we are in long term relationships with our loved ones we tend to trust them, we tend to believe that they will tell us the truth, that they will be reliable, that they will be strong when we are weak, and much more. When they mess up however; when they do not attain our expectations or goals we create in our minds, we start to wonder what else they might do as well. We start to realize that trusting them leads to heartbreak and pain, and no human wants to do something they know will cause them heartbreak, right? I mean I think personally that I would never go into something thinking, "Oh I really hope I get my heart broken today" or "Man, I would love for someone to just use me and break my trust." Like when someone in our lives hurts us, or messes up, a part of our subconscious says, hm let's avoid this kind of hurt again so every time you think of this person i'm going to put up a red flag and an alarm to make sure you don't feel that way again. This is when our trust issues come into play, so please don't think that if you have trust issues, you did something wrong, or are crazy, or anything like that because I promise you that the trust issues are a way of life and a way your mind and heart help you to find a better and happier version of yourself. STORYTIME: I was talking to this boy for a while, and I started to really like him. He would bring me flowers, and candy, and call me cute names, and deeeeep down I was like "Yes!!!! this is the boy for me!!!! My prince charming!!!" And then about 2 days after we went on a pretty romantic date, (romantic for 16 year olds) He just texted me and said that we couldn't talk anymore because I wasn't what he wanted... I literally started thinking worst case scenario, like I was too fat, not enough makeup, and all that jazz. My red flag went up. The alarm went off. The next guy who tried to come into my life was met with a "I'm sorry, I'm probably just not what you want, or need." So was the next guy after that, and the next, and the next, but why? My subconscious was telling me, don't believe these guys, they will just tell you that you aren't enough or not what they want, and then they will leave you heartbroken. Luckily though, (I know depressing story to start my blog with, but, it's true) I have gotten past my trust issues and have met some great guys who made me love myself and realize that not all guys are the same. SO, moral of the story is, hang in there because I promise you that trust issues are a thing, but you will overcome them and have a happy and loving life. Xoxo, L